2013年9月30日星期一

不成不看:職場新人若何闖“酒場”

  經由層層闖閉,終究進了旧道熱腸儀已暫的單元。如何獲得老板的青睐,若何快速天跟團隊融為一體,很多職場新人果為教訓不够,表现出无所适从。身處職場,良多人皆免不了“酒粗”測試。涉世已深的職場新人們該若何怯闖“酒場”,才坤既体面天力行酒桌規則又能游刃有余地不傷身体?

  Q. You are new to the corporate world and not sure what to do atbusiness functions or after-hour gatherings where alcohol is present.If everyone else is drinking ― including your boss ― should you drink,too?

  A. For those new to the professional world, the line between awork event and a social event is often unclear. You may see all thetrappings of a party ― food, music, even dancing ― but any gatheringwhere colleagues are present is business and you should stay sharp andavoid alcohol, said Jody Queen-Hubert, executive director ofcooperative education and career services at Pace University in NewYork。

  “Don’t be fooled,” she warned. “You are always being scrutinized by colleagues, so professionalism at all times is a must。”

  Cy Wakeman, president of a human resources consulting firm bearingher name in Sioux City, Iowa, says that when it comes to drinking withcolleagues, “the risk is very high that something negative will comeout of it。” She says that it’s acceptable to have one or two drinks butthat it is best to stop there。

  “I even advise staying out of photographs with groups of peopledrinking,” she added, “because it could wind up online somewhere, likeFacebook。”

  Everyone you interact with while drinking has the potential toaffect your career. A colleague today may be your manager six monthsfrom now and will likely recall any indecorous behavior. 更多疑息請拜訪:

  If colleagues regularly have drinks after work, order whateveryone else is having but sip it slowly. “Make it last all night,”Ms. Queen-Hubert said. “Holding a drink without drinking is a way tofeel like part of the crowd without compromising your judgment。”

  Q. How do you politely decline to drink, especially if others are urging you to have one?

  A. A simple “no, thanks” should suffice, said Debra Benton, acareer coach and author of “C.E.O. Material: How to Be a Leader in AnyOrganization。” If everyone in your group is ordering a drink, get asoda or a tonic and lime。

  You don’t need to make excuses, she said, or give a reason thatreveals personal information, like “I’m on medication。” You can,however, give the reason if it is less personal ― you will be driving,for example, or you need to finish some work when you get home。

  If you are at a dinner where bottles of wine are ordered, youdon’t want to protest because it will bring unwanted attention, saidDebra Condren, a business psychologist and president of ManhattanBusiness Coaching. “You want to fit in, and that might mean getting aglass of wine and having a few sips or just letting it sit there,” shesaid。

  Q. When you attend business-related social events with more-seniorcolleagues, they always seem to be holding a drink,翻譯. Could your refusalto do the same draw attention to your youth and inexperience?

  A. In some corporate cultures, having a scotch or bourbon is a wayto build relationships, a way to take part, Ms. Condren said. “If youare at a high-profile event and all the executives are having a drink,you may feel you need one to be part of the club,” she noted. “Thatbeing said, you can still drink very little of it or have one drink andthen switch to water。”

  It’s essential, however, to know your limits. If you’reinexperienced in such situations and your clients or bosses arethrowing back Johnnie Walkers, you can’t follow their lead, Ms. Condrensaid. If you try to keep up, you will likely drink too much and actunprofessionally ― definitely drawing attention to your youth andinexperience。

  Q. If you wound up overdoing it at a company event, what’s the best way to deal with it the next day at the office?

  A. If you offended or insulted anyone you must make amends, but doso privately. Making an apology to the entire office or department isunnecessary and can seem self-indulgent, Ms. Wakeman said. “Talk topeople individually, saying you drank too much and learned a valuablelesson and that it will never happen again,” she said. “And rememberthat if it does happen again, you will lose your credibility。”

  Q. Is it acceptable to call in sick if you are suffering from a bad hangover?

  A. No. Even if the culture is one of “playing hard,” there is alsoan expectation you will work hard the next day, Ms. Queen-Hubert said.Use your trusted hangover remedy and soldier on。

  If you are too sick to get out of bed, you will have to meet withyour boss when you return and find some way to make restitution, saidDallas Teague Snider, founder of Make Your Best Impression, a businessetiquette consulting firm in Birmingham, Ala. “Offer to work an extraday or take your sick day as unpaid vacation instead,” she said. “Yourboss may say you don’t need to do that, but you should still offer。”

  Q. How can you tell if you have a drinking problem that needs to be addressed?

  A. If you can relax at professional events only by having a drink,that could indicate a problem, Ms. Condren said. “If you areembarrassing yourself or sometimes don’t remember your behavior,” shesaid, “it’s a good idea to seek professional counseling。”

  You may be using alcohol as a crutch when navigating uncomfortablesocial situations, Ms. Wakeman said. Rather than relying on alcohol,法文翻譯,find a co-worker who is naturally adept at mingling and ask if he orshe could help you develop those social skills, too。

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